I went out to breakfast on
Sunday. I planned to fight the weeds in my garden in the afternoon, so I had on
torn jeans. I was concerned that I would be out of place among the well-dressed
Sunday public.
I was wrong. Jeans, hoodies,
T-shirts, basketball shorts and camo were everywhere. My long-sleeve Levi’s
shirt put me in the sartorial elite.
My expectations had been
formed in another era, and I had not adjusted to the reality passing before my
eyes. It’s not just dress styles that have changed. The whole idea of
respecting Sunday has been shifting during my lifetime.
Membership in a religious
congregation fell from three-quarters of Americans to just over half since the
1950s. Going to church has
fallen slowly, too, from about 50% to a low of 36% last year.
Following public behavior,
American governments have gradually stopped enforcing Christian practice. There
was no
baseball in Boston on Sundays until 1929, and then Red
Sox could not play in Fenway on Sundays, because there was a church nearby,
and had to play in the Boston Braves stadium.
Forbidding the sale of
liquor on Sundays lasted much longer, into the 21st century in
many states. The lingering effort to keep Sunday respectable by not selling
disrespectful alcohol continues in less and less rational forms, such as the
prohibition in Illinois of retail alcohol sales until 11 AM, except in Chicago,
where only the big supermarkets can sell alcohol after 8 AM. You also can’t
buy a car on Sunday, but you can get gas, get your car fixed, and buy a
motorcycle. Of course, you can buy guns on Sunday.
The most socially significant
change on Sundays is the intrusion of retail commerce, led by the big national
chains trying to put local business out of business. Respect for a common day
of rest is gone.
Why was I concerned anyway,
aren’t torn jeans fashionable? Just check the internet. You can get jeans with “distressing
and a frayed hem for an extra edge of attitude” for $51, marked
down from $80, or many varieties of torn jeans from Nordstrom’s for over $200. “Gentlemen’s Quarterly” offers a style guide
to ripped jeans, which declares that more than
2½ tears is trying too hard. Yves St. Laurent offers ripped men’s jeans for $750.
Big city folks putting on the
Ritz usually get others to tear the jeans. My small-town students mostly do
their own ripping.
But fashion rarely imitates
life. Jeans with grass and dirt stains, ragged holes at the knees and obvious
wear don’t pass GQ’s test and aren’t hawked on the internet.
So what do the artificial
holes mean? Tearing jeans ruins them for work. Eventually they no longer can do
their job of protecting the body from the rigors of dirty work. I don’t
understand those carefully planned tears, but I don’t think they represent
respect for the physical labor that causes real holes.
Maybe respect is what has
really changed. Respect for Sunday, respect for work, respect for the ideas and
customs which were dominant when I grew up. We see the evidence of new
definitions of respect and disrespect in the news every day.
Some of the respect
revolution has been welcome. Men generally exhibit much more respect for the
integrity of women’s bodies, so now violators get slapped in the face, not on
the back. But it will take more than a few outraged slaps to make any further
progress.
Disrespecting black people is
also no longer normal. Roger Angell tells the story of the presence on the
Harvard lacrosse team of a black student in 1941, which caused the US Naval
Academy team to refuse to
play, until the Harvard athletic director overruled the coach and sent the
student home. The President of Harvard apologized to the Naval Academy commander
for the inconvenience.
There is still plenty of
gender and racial disrespect across America, but the change has been
remarkable.
Some respect shows disrespect
for others. The conventional respect for Christian Sunday was not matched by
any public respect for Jewish Friday evening and Saturday. America may be a
majority Christian nation a bit longer, but government Christianity is no
longer a virtue in the democratic US.
My torn jeans on Sunday are
not a sign of disrespect, but an expression of a different culture, one of many
that have combined to make America. We don’t need to all respect the same
things. Respecting our diversity means understanding that Americans will
respect different things.
Some traditional forms of
respect are now controversial. Our public space is torn about the idea of
respecting the Confederacy. Respect of equal rights leads to disrespect for
slavery and its defenders. The oldest US universities, so disrespected by
conservative pundits, are among the leaders in examining how they profited from
and strengthened slavery. What conservatives call political correctness, I call
honesty about the past.
Respect is good, when it
comes out of the broadest respect for our fellow humans of all kinds.
Steve Hochstadt
Jacksonville IL
Published in the Jacksonville
Journal-Courier, October 24, 2017