Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Who Are Our Heroes?



Phil Robertson was the featured speaker at the Republican Leadership Conference in May in New Orleans, announced only two days before the meeting. Most Americans know his name, because he plays himself on “Duck Dynasty”, the highest rated reality show on cable.

Robertson’s personal story is remarkable for his rejection of conventional modern life, and inspiring for his persistence. The Wikipedia article about him is worth reading, especially for the buzz cut 1967 photo of him as a college football star. Robertson started at quarterback for Louisiana Tech for two years while Terry Bradshaw of later Pittsburgh Steelers fame backed him up. But as Bradshaw wrote in his autobiography, “The quarterback playing ahead of me, Phil Robertson, loved hunting more than he loved football.” Robertson did not play his last year and refused offers to play in the NFL in order to hunt and try to convince other hunters that his hand-whittled duck calls were the best. Beginning by selling his work store-to-store, making some duck hunting videos, appearing on the Outdoor Channel, he finally earned an invitation from A&E to have his family become reality TV stars.

Robertson has a great beard, which I appreciate. But I don’t think his wild hair recommended him to the most clean shaven, tightly coiffed class of Americans – politicians.

Robertson’s rags to riches story links the Republican Party, which bases its economic policies on protecting the rich, with average working Americans, although he is anything but average. Only a minority of Americans regularly watch his show, less than one in every 20 adults. Many more have heard about Robertson because of his recent remarks on political issues. That was the reason for the Republican invitation. Robertson was being asked to talk politics to conservative politicians and their supporters.

What he would say was already widely known. In January, GQ published a lengthy story about him, sprinkled with his political quotations. Asked what he believed was sinful, he replied, “Start with homosexual behavior and just morph out from there. Bestiality, sleeping around with this woman and that woman and that woman and those men.” Paraphrasing 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, he said, “Neither the adulterers, the idolaters, the male prostitutes, the homosexual offenders, the greedy, the drunkards, the slanderers, the swindlers, they won’t inherit the kingdom of God.” A bit later he tossed homosexuals, drunks and terrorists into one heap.

On African Americans, he explained how happy they were in Louisiana in the Jim Crow era: “I never, with my eyes, saw the mistreatment of any black person. Not once. Where we lived was all farmers. The blacks worked for the farmers. I hoed cotton with them. I’m with the blacks, because we’re white trash.... They’re singing and happy. I never heard one of them, one black person, say, ‘I tell you what: These doggone white people.’ Not a word!... Pre-entitlement, pre-welfare, you say: Were they happy? They were godly, they were happy, no one was singing the blues.”

When the interview became public, there was a predictable outcry from Americans who found these ideas offensive. The A&E network suspended Robertson, then there was another outcry from the opposite direction, and Robertson was put back on the air.

Other information about his sexual beliefs has become public knowledge. In 2009, he gave marriage advice to the men of the Georgia Sportsmen’s Ministry. He started by advising, “Make sure that she can cook a meal.” Then he went further: “Look, you wait ’til they get to be 20 years old, the only picking that’s going to take place is your pocket. You got to marry these girls when they are about 15 or 16. They’ll pick your ducks.” He repeated that theme in his autobiography published in 2013.

These are the views that the Republican Leadership Conference organizers expected to hear, and Robertson delivered. He quoted Corinthians again about the evils of homosexuality and read many documents which equated the US with Christianity. He called the Obama White House “evil and wicked”. His main advice: “Get Godly.”

Phil Robertson is a fascinating man, with every right to express his opinions, shared by many Americans. When the Republican Party invites him to speak, they express their endorsement of those opinions: homosexuality is a sin to be compared with bestiality and terrorism; women should cook well and follow the lead of their men; blacks didn’t start singing the blues until liberals came along with the civil rights movement.

Robertson himself expressed some uncertainty about why he was asked to address an official Party gathering. He offers nothing to the majority of Americans who disagree with what he says. He has no advice for politicians trying to make policy or win votes. He appeals to the good old white boys, whose votes Republican politicians desperately seek.

That appears to make him a conservative Republican political hero. Republican politicians have had little success trying to change Americans’ minds about the very issues that Robertson is known to speak about. but they keep trying, by reasserting their simple formulas and offering only disdain to those who disagree. Mitt Romney won nearly twice as many votes among white men as Barack Obama, but even that margin was not enough to win the election. His assertion that Republicans could write off nearly half the population, those entitled minorities, sinful homosexuals, and equality-minded women, still appears to govern Republican Party practice.

Steve Hochstadt
Jacksonville IL
Published in the Jacksonville Journal-Courier, August 26, 2014

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Father of the Bride



My daughter Mae got married this weekend. That gave me a special status as father of the bride. But exactly what that means is not so clear.

The 1991 comedy “Father of the Bride” starring Steve Martin, and its predecessor from 1950 starring Spencer Tracy, portrayed these men as foolish protectors of their adult daughters, only slowly reconciled to losing them to their future sons-in-law. That wasn’t an attractive model for me, but it was based on widely accepted ideas.

For centuries fathers have given away their daughters to new husbands. That ritual reflected the idea that women were not independent beings, but for their whole lives dependent upon men. Marriage represented a moment of transition, when a father handed over responsibility for his daughter to her husband.

This transfer of responsibility for a woman was also symbolized by changing her name from her father’s to her husband’s. The question of whether women should change their names at marriage became controversial in the 1970s, when many women influenced by the feminist movement decided to keep their names.

It’s hard to find out how frequently women have kept their names since then: you can read quite different percentages from different studies. An academic paper says around one in five over the past couple of decades, with a slight decrease since 2000, while a Facebook study estimates about one third. When women talk about making that decision, they often describe the social pressure to change their names. The phrase we use to label a women’s birth name reveals the ancient thinking behind this tradition: the words “maiden name” imply women’s virginal state before marriage.

Mae is 30 years old, and didn’t need or want anyone to give her away. She and Ben had developed pretty definite ideas about how their wedding should be celebrated. They wanted to get married in the woods of northern Wisconsin, to eat homemade foods, to have wedding pies instead of a cake, to dance to a musical playlist they put together. They wanted every element of the ceremony to display the equality of their relationship. They wanted fun rather than formality.
                                                           
The weekend was a family event. Not only did third cousins and third cousins of third cousins come from all over to celebrate their wedding, but they also baked and cooked and set up and cleaned up. Their friends created silly games to play outdoors on the wedding afternoon. In fact, weddings are two-family events, when groups of people, who may have never met, find themselves joined together by matrimony. Members of both families pitched in, inspired by this do-it-yourself approach and joyous for their opportunities to participate.

My role as father of the bride, of course in tandem with my wife, was to facilitate those plans: arrange the food they wanted to eat; rent the tents they wanted so guests could eat outside; buy paper plates and plastic spoons and vinyl tablecloths; procure a generator to run lights and sound system on the lake shore; and write a few checks.

Of course, that’s not enough. The father of the bride is expected to address the wedding party and the guests with words of love and wisdom. There are countless websites offering advice to fathers on how to give a wedding speech. They are strong on well-phrased platitudes, and thus not very useful, except to display the many themes that a father could express.

Generic phrases were not able to express my feelings about this wonderful milestone in Mae’s and Ben’s life. Ultimately, my status as father of the bride depended for its meaning on my daughter. For her, as for me, following traditions is less important than making her own decisions about the role she wanted me to play. Being father of the bride is nothing more than continuing to be a father. That role doesn’t end with a wedding. Nobody is lost or given away. Strong women don’t need protection. I was delighted to support her thoughtful choices, to welcome a new set of relatives, to carry on being a father, a man’s most joyous role.

Steve Hochstadt
Springbrook WI
Published in the Jacksonville Journal-Courier, August 12, 2014

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Politics Are Not That Important



Here in the northern Wisconsin woods, life seems simpler. Perhaps the woods and the lake and the birds allow me to see some things more clearly. Here’s a woodsy insight – politics are not so important.

Certainly for some people, politics make all the difference. Gay couples waiting to get married, people unable to get health insurance before the Affordable Care Act, and the long-term unemployed – the quality of their lives are directly affected by political decisions at the national level. Members of the armed forces are crucially concerned with our interventions in foreign wars. The continuing uncertainty about federal economic policy affects business decision-makers big and small.

But for most people most of the time, the political controversies which so agitate television news reporters, internet bloggers and radio screamers, are merely background noise. For example, many political commentators write obsessively about taxes. They claim that people’s most significant decisions, such as where they will live, are based on tax rates. Over my lifetime, I have talked with hundreds of people, young, mature, and old, about where they will live and to where they might want to move. People move to be near relatives, to take a new job, to go to college, and to seek a different climate. Financial considerations often play a role. But I have never had a conversation about moving that involved tax rates.

Guns are another political issue which occupies outsized territory in our public lives. A small minority of Americans appears to believe that their happiness depends on being able to carry guns everywhere, even in schools and churches. A smaller number of our fellow citizens have lost their lives to heavily armed crazies. For most of us, however, the proper interpretation of the Second Amendment is a mainly theoretical question.

Our daily lives won’t be influenced by gun laws until the weapons enthusiasts start showing up everywhere we go ready to shoot anything that moves. Maybe by that time the majority, who would feel safer if guns were kept at home, will regain control of this debate.

The issues which do affect us most closely are rarely discussed and barely seem political. Filling potholes, fixing bridges and keeping parks open can make our daily routines safer and more enjoyable. Because they are less susceptible to partisan passions, they get less attention. If polls were taken about whether we want our roads kept in good repair, the left-right divisions would seem less important.

The things we wake up thinking about are rarely political. In daily life, politics fall far behind meal planning, job tasks, recreation, or school activities. We’ll ask ourselves whether we need to put gas in the car a hundred times more often than what we think about gasoline taxes. Most people’s lives are barely affected by Supreme Court decisions, Congressional debates or Presidential decrees.

So why do we get so exercised about politics? Why let the things that divide us take up so much emotional space?

I don’t have good answers. I do have a suggestion, drawn from my experience of being called every name in the book by people who only know a little about my politics and nothing about me. Let’s focus more on what is really important in our lives and recognize that politics can be a noisy distraction. We’ll find more agreement and get more done.

Steve Hochstadt
Springbrook, WI
Published in the Jacksonville Journal-Courier, August 5, 2014

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Praying With Women



What is the worst offense that a religious person can commit? Murder? Rape? Grand theft auto? Nope. According to Catholic Bishop Thomas Paprocki of Springfield, the worst thing a Catholic can do is attend a worship service led by a woman.

As Caryn Riswold wrote two weeks ago, Bishop Paprocki has threatened to excommunicate any Catholic who attends a worship service of the Holy Family Inclusive Catholic Community, led by Rev. Mary Keldermans. She was recently ordained as part of the international Roman Catholic Womanpriests movement. One does not have to participate actively in this heretical worship to incur this extreme penalty: attendance alone is sufficient.

The Catholic Church does not automatically excommunicate murderers or rapists or other criminals. That punishment, the worst which the Church can impose, means the offender is excluded from the religious community and may not take communion. It is reserved for the worst offenders – those who pray the wrong way.

Organized and institutional religions all regard praying the wrong way as a capital offense. Deadly religious wars within a faith have a long history. The efforts of a few Christians, like Martin Luther, to reform some of the beliefs and practices of the organized Church in Europe in the 16th century touched off centuries of warfare between Catholics and Protestants.

The schism within the Russian Orthodox Church a bit later developed out of an argument about the proper way to make the sign of the cross, among other similar questions about daily ritual practice. The result was centuries of persecution and exile for those so-called Old Believers, who refused to change their ways.

Jews have done the same thing, although with less violence. Some German Jews tried to bring changes to worship practices in the 18th and 19th centuries, such as translating prayers from Hebrew into German. That caused a split among European Jews into Orthodox and Reform wings. Orthodox Jews continue to control religious observance in Israel, and do not consider reform Jews to be sufficiently Jewish.

The deadly rampages of Muslims in Iraq against other Muslims who worship in a different way, Sunnis vs. Shiites, are making headlines again. Boko Haram terrorists are killing other Muslims in Nigeria.

Murderous hatred between different religions is even greater. Across the world and across the centuries, Christians have killed Jews and Muslims, while Muslims and Hindus have fought in southern Asia. In and around Israel, being Muslim or Jewish is enough to condemn a person to death by the other side. Radical Muslims have declared holy war, jihad, against Westerners.

So Bishop Paprocki is following a long tradition. His anger has been provoked by a very modern issue which divides religious traditionalists of many faiths from reformers – the role of women. When the world’s major religions were institutionalized, human societies subordinated women and excluded them from all leadership positions. Theories and practices were developed to justify women’s unequal place, such as that women represented sexual temptation or that menstruation made them unclean or that they were biologically and intellectually inferior. Over the past two centuries, these social assumptions have been demonstrated to be unscientific and illogical. As our social and political organizations have slowly and certainly reluctantly adapted to this revolution in gender understanding, so have some religious organizations. In many faiths, women now play roles once reserved exclusively for men. The theological dogmas which seemed unchangeable have changed.

Catholicism has changed, too. Until the Holocaust, Catholic dogma considered Jews as Christ-killers, although most Catholics were able to treat Jews as fellow humans, rather than religious scapegoats. Since the Holocaust, Catholic teachings about Jews have changed. That will happen about women, too, perhaps not in my lifetime, but eventually. Reform will be fought by extreme traditionalists, who will use all the weapons at their disposal, including excommunication.

So go ahead – kill your neighbor. You may have to pay an earthly penalty, but eternal salvation can still be achieved. But don’t walk into the wrong church, especially if you see a woman in the pulpit. Then the wrath of the organized church or mosque or temple will be visited upon you.

Steve Hochstadt
Boston
Published in the Jacksonville Journal-Courier, July 29, 2014